Hi everyone! I decided to ask this here because well, I don't know where else to ask hah. This is partly me asking for opinions, and partly rambling about my own feelings.

There is something I've been thinking about recently... basically, I've seen people say that if they're bisexual it means they like men/women in a gay way; and I want to understand that a bit better.

Because I keep thinking about the question: if that's true, what would it be like if a bisexual person was in a relationship with a straight person?

I got this idea I want to address either in my current comic, or maybe in a future comic idk, but I need some extra insight. I can only speak for my own experiences after all, and those are very limited...

I have questioned my sexuality in the past, but I ended up just labeling myself as straight mostly because of physical attraction to the opposite gender of course, but I also find that there's something... kind of fulfilling about "conforming" to the societal expectation of my culture in that regard, especially since I do not conform in other ways. In other words, as a straight person I would say it is important for me to conform to society's expectations, even if just a little.

However, I think when people say that they like the opposite gender in a "gay" way, they are saying that their attraction does not conform to said expectations. Which brings me to the question I posed earlier. Would that be a source of conflict in a relationship? If I dated a bisexual woman, would it make me uncomfortable if she viewed our relationship as "queer"? How would I overcome that? Is that how this even works or am I just misunderstanding it all? So many questions!

I want to explore those themes, but I also don't want to accidentally say some stupid shit about things I don't know anything about. Which is why I need to ask for some insight from the LGBTQ+ community... these are mainly directed towards bisexual people, but I'd be open to any kind of response really. The questions that I'm asking are:

Are you, or have you ever been in a relationship with a straight person? How do/did you feel about it? Or if you haven't, how would you feel if you were? Or maybe you wouldn't want to date a straight person at all?

Do you feel like your relationships are "queer" even when you are dating someone of the opposite/different gender? Does your partner feel the same? What do you mean when you say this?

In your opinion, could a cis straight person also feel the same about their relationships if for some reason, said relationship did not conform to society's expectations? (for example; if they are part of an underground subculture/kink scene, or if their partner was LGBTQ+)

Would you say the same about a trans straight person? Why or why not?

If you'd like to tell me about your experiences, you can write here, or send an email to deimosphoibus[at]gmail.com. Or you can answer this form if you'd rather stay anonymous. Feel free to be as honest as you want, don't be afraid of offending me or anything (if that is even a concern)